“I am very upset with my best friend. I think she is mean and selfish.” 

My client Shikha, was very disturbed by her friend’s recent behaviour towards her. She had started spending a lot of time with her boyfriend and Shikha felt like she did not care about her anymore. She felt used. She missed her friend and wished they could spend some alone time with her instead of group plans with new people

When I asked why she did not enjoy going out as a group, she admitted she felt uncomfortable around them. “They are all good looking fun people and I feel that they will not like me. I feel ugly around them.”

She had a handful of friends she was comfortable with and felt she was happier that way. Many of the girls had boyfriends and no boy liked her. 

That was the beginning of finding comfort in herself.